Saturday, May 10, 2014
WHY I SUCK AT #100HAPPYDAYS—AND WHY THAT MIGHT ACTUALLY BE SUCCEEDING
I got excited when I found #100HappyDays. Really.
It reminded me of Catherine Ryan Hyde’s #DailyGratitude. It sounded so simple: Take a pic of something
that makes you happy each day and post it online. I’ve often tried to keep gratitude journals,
but I’m terrible at journals—any kind of journal. I thought this would keep me honest.
Right off the bat, though, I started cheating. I wasn’t posting photos. Instead, I was posting a tweet describing
what had made me happy that day. But
after about a week, my #100Happy tweets died.
Here’s why:
They died, in part, for the same reason my photos never
quite got off the ground: because I do not do tech on my off-time. I have a disposo-cell phone (no
smartphone). It doesn’t take
pictures. It doesn’t connect to the Internet. It makes calls. It has a flashlight. The end.
I don’t carry a camera with me most times, either. I feel incredibly fortunate to being doing
what I love. I respect my industry, which
means I work hard. I keep long
hours. But when I’m done, I’m done. At the end of the day, I don’t want to think
about Twitter or blogs or promos. I want
to enjoy a meal and good company and play with my dog and watch the sun set and laugh and unwind with some yoga and not be
taken out of the moment by having to take a picture of it all and think about
posting it online.
#100HappyDays also died because bad things happened. Okay, it wasn’t like I had to endure anything
tragic, but there were definitely down moments.
For example, I broke a tooth. I
had to have a root canal. I never got
completely numb, which meant the two hours of drilling were painful. When I returned for my permanent crown, it
didn’t fit (the temp didn’t fit well, either, and had torn up my gums). I felt it was just plain silly to find some
sort of superficial happiness (why, this dental office has lovely wallpaper!)
in the midst of a situation that was expensive and painful and frustrating and
never ending (I’m still waiting for a new permanent crown). Instead, I recognized the suck-factor of the
situation while it was happening, and then I put the bad situation aside, and
focused on the current task at hand: drafting new work, meeting bloggers,
organizing a new tour—all cool stuff.
As far as Twitter is concerned, I’m a big fat #100HappyDays
failure. But don’t my reasons for
failing show that I actually succeeded?
Isn’t #100HappyDays a gateway toward the enjoyment of life? Isn’t that what I’ve been doing all
along? Doesn’t my enjoyment show that I
maybe failed at #100HappyDays because I didn’t need it to begin with?
Maybe I’m giving myself too much credit, patting myself on
the back a little too hard. Could
be. But instead of dwelling on it, I’m
going to turn off this computer and dance barefoot to Will Hoge. Because that makes me happy.
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Gratitude should never feel forced, but should spring from the delight and joy of unexpected things. Great post and food for thought. Enjoy your down time...you deserve it. THAT is something to be grateful for.
ReplyDelete"Gratitude should never feel forced"--SO true, Darlene...
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